The Law of Attraction practice depends on, in a high measure, to your ability to make a quick and firm decision. I don’t know why so many people are afraid to reach those critical decisions in life when an opportunity presents itself. All I can say that from my experience, all those frightening decisions that I made where good ones in the end.
Turns out that I was freaking out for nothing, as we all tend to do. I have learned that the more decisions I make, all of them work for me in one way or another. Even those which seem to be bad turned out to be good in some way.
This particular analysis of my own behavior when I am faced with a tough decision lead me to a couple of conclusions.
Within this post, I have listed the five great ways to become better at making decisions in life.
We all want to be better in specific areas of our personality. It is in our human nature to seek and look for ways and means to evolve more.
The ability to make a quick and firm decision will lift you up far and beyond from your current position in life. I even dare to say that once you become better at this, you will get a possibility to achieve some massive success you have never dreamed of. Or you have never made a decision to follow.
You see, most of the time the difference between you and someone who seems to be successful in some areas of life is in one simple moment of decision,
This skill has to be learned by everyone. You are not born with this skill. Moreover, we are born without skills. The first one you and I have learned was to breathe. Later on, we have picked up some more along the way. As you have learned everything in your life, you can also learn how to be a better decision maker.
If you don’t develop the ability to be better at making a decision, then the only other option is to become a procrastinator. Sound awful, right? However, it is the truth.
I have a firm belief that in a large percentage people are master procrastinators of important decisions.
A Quick Warmup Before We Start
I want you to understand that not everyone is made to be a good decision maker.
If you want to improve this part of your personality, no matter what lever you are right now, you will have to beat the craft much more than you think so. However, I am more than sure that it will pay to you in large dividends all through life.
You see, the fact is that the majority of people lack this valuable skill in their skillset. Men of women, it doesn’t matter. Moreover, many of us never try to learn it at all. Why? I don’t know.
All I know is that a person who is unable to make a quick decision can live a life of too many missed opportunities. Not a good one for sure.
On the other side, if you will analyze people who are highly successful in life, you can notice that all of them share one value, they are making quick decisions.
They have learned how to emotionalize the decision which helps them to stick to it until they pull it out. If they change them, however, they change them very slowly, if at all, and only after deep analysis of results that came after.
You see, I can relate to both types of people.
I managed to go from a man who is unable to make his own decisions to a confident decision maker.
Because of the much success that I have received as a reward for my practice, I must say that I have picked up the pace lately. The pace which brings me more and more good in life as I move forward.
Along the way, I have picked up some useful tricks and tips on how you too can do the same and I want to share them so bad!
Remember, it takes time to develop a new skill so take it easy and relax.
5 Ways to Become a Better Decision Maker
Every great master of the trade has been working in shadows for days, weeks, months, or even years. The fact is that most of the time all you can see is his result.
I have gone a step further in my research and discovered what makes a great decision maker.
1.) Keep Cool and Relax a Lot
This is a scenario.
In situations when you have to make an important decision, a panic alarm goes off in your mind. Stress starts to build up, and your mind begins to shoot thousands of thoughts in a minute. All of them are mostly negative because most of us are by our nature negative thinkers.
First and foremost, if you want to be good at making decisions, you will have to learn to handle your stress levels and eliminate those negative thoughts that will make you back up and procrastinate your decision.
Next time when you find yourself in this kind of situation, take a deep breath and exhale. If necessary, take two or three before you decide.
You see, deep breathing is a stress-relieving technique. When stress is gone, everything becomes easy. Moreover, when practiced regularly, you can quickly become a master of your mind and your body and learn to control your state completely. This skill will come to you handy in moments of reaching an important life decision.
You can practice some beginner meditation to learn how to regulate your breathing and, therefore, your stress levels.
When it comes to meditation, I must say that more than half of important decisions, if not all of them, were made while I was relaxing and meditating.
I don’t know why people shy away from meditation when it is the best medication we have ever discovered. Try it for yourself if you don’t believe me.
Exercise is another excellent way to deal with stress. You can go for a run or at least a fast-paced walk a couple of times per week.
Swimming, hiking, cycling, yoga, whatever you enjoy, will also help you to stay calm when most needed.
Apply this on a regular basis and next time, when you face a stressful decision, maybe it is not going to be stressful at all.
2.) Ask Your Self, Not Somebody Else
People tend to avoid thinking when they face a decision. Or, even worse, we do think but, in the end, we overthink. The fact is, none of the two will help us to be a better decision maker. And then there is a third scenario when we go and ask Bill or Mary what to do. But, what does Bill or Mary know what is right for you?
Go someplace quiet instead, and ask your self these questions.
- What do I want?
- What is better for me?
- What can I get or lose if you make that decision?
These questions will start an inner conversation. And this is the only conversation you have to make if you want to make a right decision.
Once you make a habit out of this, you will eliminate MAYBE from your vocabulary. Simply YES or NO!
3.) Do not Overthink it
I can’t describe how important this one is. Do Not Overthink It! Overthinking will get you nowhere; it will spin you in a circle, and bring you nothing but bad feelings.
When you reach your decision, you will know because you will feel right about it. If the answer does not come straight away, keep on breathing, as it will arrive.
The key is, when you feel good with your answer, that’s it! Stop right there, and write it down so you won’t forget it. This small piece of action can be worth a lot. Believe me. When you have your decision written on a piece of paper it is a goal. Now, you can start to make some plans and work on it more in detail.
Once again, when you feel right about it, stop with thinking and write it down, take a deep breath, relax and…
4.) Step Out and Do It!
The action is a cure for procrastination. The action is a key to becoming a better decision maker. The action is the key to success.
There will be times of right decisions, and there will be times of bad ones. But how will you know it is good or bad if you don’t step out and do it. Moreover, the beauty of bad decisions is that you can learn from them for the next time when you face the same one.
Failure is nothing but a lesson.
On the other hand, the benefits that will come from good ones, well, that is for you to discover…
5.) Trust the Process
The problem occurs when a person doesn’t have faith in his decision. Lack of confidence will make you overthink your possible choice and, as I have mentioned, it will spin you in a circle.
Once you apply all from above and you go for it, you will have no other option except to trust the process.
The process is a great teacher. He will teach you everything you need after you make a decision. Your job is to act on, be persistent it and have faith in you and your abilities.
Maybe All You Need is One Great Decision
What I have learned so far is, when a person gets in a cycle of bad decisions, that person will back up next time and quit making them.
It is almost a natural process.
On the other hand, one great decision followed with success can do a great thing for confidence in oneself. Just one great choice can start a snowball effect. Only one can attract more of the same.
My decision is to help as many people as I can, who have the same problems I had, to decide to deal with those handicaps once and for all! To attack the negative side of life, chest to chest, and conquer the giant of doubt in their heads.
Motivation is a Great Decision Maker
There is no point in being a better decision maker if you are not going to stick to your decision.
In the process of making a decision and reaching out to do what you want to do, a motivation can be a key factor. Planning and goal setting is crucial for success as well.
A couple of years ago, I made a decision to become successful in my life. However, I didn’t even know what success means. I was full of questions and no answers, so I went in search.
I can say the quest was hard, sometimes demotivating to the point of giving up.
One day I found a program; a self-study program.
I have made a great decision and my life has changed since. The purpose of the program is to teach you practical methods for setting goals (making a decision), to help you plan your activities and to motivate you to stick to your decisions!
The program helped me, as well as millions around the world, to become better decision makers. I have great confidence to say that everyone who will decide to give it a go will open a door to success.
To your success my confident decision-maker wherever you are!
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below, and I will be more than happy to help you out.
All the best,